Discover how naturopathic medicine supports mental health by addressing the body’s root causes. In this first installment of Tiny Cottage Therapy’s new Holistic Healing Interview Series, we speak with Dr. Kirstin Uncur, ND, a naturopathic doctor specializing in mental health, hormone balance, and chronic fatigue. Dr. Uncur shares how understanding the body’s communication—through digestion, inflammation, and nutrient balance—can transform emotional wellbeing.

High-functioning anxiety is one of those experiences that often goes unnoticed by others, and sometimes even by ourselves. On the outside, you may look composed, capable, and productive. You meet deadlines, show up for others, and seem to “have it all together.”

Caregiving is deeply relational work. Whether you’re caring for aging parents, chronically ill family members, or loved ones with disability, you carry both visible tasks and invisible emotional burdens. In APIDA communities, these burdens often overlap with cultural expectations of filial piety, sacrifice, and duty.

Many of us grew up hearing explicit or implicit messages like “Work hard, make your family proud, and don’t waste the sacrifices that were made for you.” These messages often come from love, perseverance, and cultural survival. They’re passed down through generations that endured hardship by prioritizing endurance, humility, and achievement.

But over time, these values can turn into overwhelming pressure. You may feel driven to achieve, hesitant to rest, or afraid to disappoint others, while constantly living with a quiet sense of “not enough.”

When clients come to therapy, many wonder whether their cultural background “matters” in the work. The short answer? It absolutely does.

As a Somatic Internal Family Systems (Somatic IFS) practitioner, one of the most common questions I hear is:

“What is Somatic IFS and how can it help me?”

Many of my clients come to me after years of intellectualizing their problems, feeling like they understand their struggles but still feel stressed in their bodies. That’s where Somatic IFS makes a difference. It integrates the mind and the body, offering a path to healing that goes deeper than words—so you can feel lasting change from the inside out.

You find yourself staying at your Outlook email feeling dread, overwhelm, and maybe a sense of detachment from the excited new hire you once were. You’re over caffeinated but still feeling drained. The coworkers and supervisor you once thought would be friends and mentors, feel like strangers or worse—enemies.

If you find yourself wondering “Should I quit my job?”, you are not alone. The fact that you are even thinking about it, means it’s time to pause and reflect on your next steps.

“What do you want to be when you grow up?” “What are you doing to do with your major?” “What’s your plan after school?”

How many of us couldn’t even count the numbers of times we were asked these questions in our lifetimes. Living in the U.S. especially there is so much pressure to find a perfect job in a good career path. Often this lifelong pressure leads towards disappointment when we finally land the job that we were supposed to love.

Many of us grew up believing that being “nice” meant saying yes, keeping the peace, and putting others’ needs first. On the surface, this looks generous and kind. But beneath the surface, people-pleasing often has less to do with kindness and more to do with fear.

So many of us feel this deep need to help, support, and care for others. This is not a bad quality, in a lot of cases it can be an absolutely good quality. However, sometimes we get so plugged into this role of giving to others that we completely deplete ourselves. Understanding the differences between empathy and responsibility can be a key step in making sure you don’t overextend and can keep being that kind caring human that you are!