tiny cottage therapy

holistic psychotherapy

for high-functioning anxiety, burnout, & cultural identity

You’re really good at making it seem like everything’s fine.

But you don’t feel fine.

You’ve been working so hard to meet the needs of everyone else that you’ve left yourself behind.

Hi, I’m Caitlin Blair,

I’m a California therapist (Licensed Clinical Social Worker #128351) who works with high-functioning humans—the ones who are always there for others, who seem like they have it all together, and who quietly carry the weight of doing it all. In our first call, they tell me:

"I don’t know how much longer I can keep this up."

And, I deeply get that. When you're the one everyone turns to—for support, advice, guidance—it’s easy to lose sight of your own needs. Over time, anxiety builds, burnout creeps in, and the roles you once took pride in start to feel heavy. It’s a disorienting experience when your inner experience no longer matches the image others see.

Therapy can be a space to breathe a little more. To stop pretending like you have it all together. To get curious about who you are beneath the striving and caretaking.

My clients often arrive unsure if they’re allowed to slow down. But over time, they typically reconnect with themselves—and begin to build a life that feels just as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.

You might be asking yourself,

  • Why do I feel so overwhelmed when I’m doing everything “right”?

  • How can I say no without feeling guilty?

  • Will people still care about me if I stop helping them?

  • What would it feel like to rest without earning it?

  • Is it okay to want more ease, more independence, more joy?

these are my specialities…

these are my specialities…

High-Functioning Anxiety & Burnout

You’re the one everyone counts on—steady, capable, and always giving 110%. On the outside, it looks like you’re thriving. On the inside, it’s a different story. If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or stuck in cycles of perfectionism and self-doubt, therapy can help you reconnect with yourself and finally breathe.

People Pleasing & Boundaries

You want to be kind, thoughtful, and generous—but somewhere along the way, your needs got lost in the mix. If you’re constantly saying yes when you want to say no, you’re likely feeling resentful. If you’re unsure how to speak up, therapy is a space to explore where that comes from and learn to set (culturally relevant) boundaries that feel empowering, not scary.

Identity, Culture & Belonging

You’ve always navigated multiple worlds—culturally, racially, professionally, personally—and it’s left you wondering where, and with whom, you fully belong. I specialize in supporting mixed-race, multicultural, and third-culture clients who are exploring identity, belonging, and self-trust in a world that often asks them to choose one version of themselves.

“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.”

— Lao Tzu

choose your own adventure

let’s work together

Individual Therapy

You’re often the one offering reassurance and advice to others. You don’t have any space where you can actually unload unto someone else without feeling guilty. Individual therapy is a space to reconnect with yourself, reflect on patterns, and slow down. I offer virtual sessions across California, and limited in-person outdoor therapy in Sonoma County.

Couples Therapy

It’s not that you don’t care—it’s that things feel off. Maybe you’re having the same fight over and over, or just feel disconnected from the person you love. I work with couples navigating big transitions, cross-cultural relationships, and communication breakdowns. Let’s build a stronger, more honest connection—without losing yourself in the process.

Groups

Help doesn’t have to be one-on-one. My groups offer a more affordable way to get support and a sense of community. Whether you're exploring boundaries, burnout, or just want to be around people who get it, group therapy helps you grow alongside others. Join us online for my AAPI Caregiver Support Group.

Start your journey.