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A Holistic Mental Health Resource for Anxiety, Burnout & Cultural Identity
I’m Caitlin Blair, LCSW and holistic psychotherapist based in California. I love helping people find more balance in their lives by building awareness & building practical habits to support their whole selves.
Allostatic Load: Why Chronic Stress Leaves You So Burned Out
When you’re burned out, it can feel like your energy never quite comes back. It doesn’t seem to matter how much you “rest”, take time off, or try to relax. You may be still appear to be functioning and fulfilling your daily duties, but everything feels a little harder than it used to. There’s a name for this experience: allostatic load.
Books for Community Care and Self-Care During Hard & Overwhelming Times
I’ve struggle for words about what the world feels like to me right now. I realized that it brings me a lot of comfort to know that I don’t need to come up with new words, opinions, or ideas on how to broach the turmoil I feel and see around me. I hope that this list of books can offer you some guidance and support through difficult times. I hope they offer you hope and peace when you need it, and challenge and growth when you also need that.
Why You’re Still Tired Even Though You Sleep
You’re going to bed. You’re even getting the recommended number of hours. And yet, you wake up feeling foggy, heavy, or already behind.
That’s because it’s not really about sleep, it’s about your lack of restorative rest. Sleep and rest aren’t the same thing and it’s important to understand the difference and how to get both.
Starting the Lunar New Year with Year of the Horse-Inspired Rituals from a Chinese American Therapist
Rooted in thousands of years of Chinese culture, Lunar New Year (LNY) marks a collective pause between what has been and what is becoming. Unlike the urgency often felt leading up to January 1st, Lunar New Year invites reflection, restoration, and intentional movement forward.
Sleep in an Overstimulated World
“Why can’t I sleep?" “How can I fall asleep faster?” These are two of the top mental health-related google searches of this year. And it’s no wonder, because we’re living in a world that rarely lets our nervous systems fully relax. Even when we’re technically resting, we’re often still taking in information, others’ emotion, and stimulation.
For many people, the issue isn’t that they don’t want to sleep or don’t know the basics of sleep hygiene. It’s that our bodies are getting all kind of mixed signals about when and how they are supposed to power down.
What Poetcore, Wilderkind, Cottagecore, & Mystic Outlands Aesthetics Say About Our Mental Health Right Now
Aesthetics like poetcore, wilderkind, cottagecore, and mystic outlandes are a part of Pinterest’s Trend Predictions and they say a lot more about us than just trending aesthetics and popular themes. These trends are showing a great cultural shift about what people are craving within the context of our current state of our world: slowness, meaning, grounding, and relief from constant performance for others’ gaze.
Anxiety Isn’t All in Your Head: Understanding the Vagus Nerve
Polyvagal theory gives modern language to that ancient knowing. It helps explain how anxiety lives in the body, why talk alone doesn’t always help, and how small, embodied shifts can change how safe you feel day to day. Let’s dive into learning about the vagus nerve and how it can actually apply to your daily life to support anxiety and overwhelm.
Cozy Hobbies and Mental Health: Why Slow, Comforting Activities Actually Help
The best part about cozy hobbies is that it’s not about mastering a skills (although you often do improve) or monetizing your interests. They’re about engaging with ourselves in ways that feel grounding, soothing, and human. And from a mental health perspective, they’re one of the keys to rejuvenating our spirits and beating burnout.
Going Analog in 2026: How to Balance Technology, Burnout & Anxiety
As we move into 2026, many people are feeling drawn toward the idea of “going analog.” This interest a response to the exhaustion that comes from living in a world where screens touch nearly every part of our lives. Technology can be incredibly helpful, offering access to care, flexibility, creativity, and connection. At the same time, when digital engagement becomes constant and unavoidable, it can quietly contribute to burnout, anxiety, and a sense of disconnection.
The question most people are really asking isn’t “Should I quit technology?” but rather, “How do I use it in a way that actually supports my mental health?”
Supporting Digestive & Nervous System Health with Naturopathic Medicine
Today, I’m interviewing Dr. Leo Mountain, a naturopathic doctor who specializes in gut health, nervous system support, men’s health, hormone imbalances, LGBTQ & trans-affirming care, and other complex illnesses. Dr. Mountain supports patients online in California and in-person in San Diego. We are here to talk about how nutrition and craniosacral therapy can support holistic health.
How to Set New Year’s Goals That Honor Your Healing: Trauma-Informed Resolutions
For many people, the New Year carries a sense of possibility; think fresh starts, big dreams, new habits. But on the flip side, this idea that we need to create major change in our lives can provoke anxiety and internalized pressure. Instead of excitement, you might feel guilt, or dread every time someone asks “Do you have any New Year’s Resolutions?”. The idea of setting ambitious goals might bring up feelings of failure, not hope.
Bridging Tradition & Modern Science: A conversation with a Traditional Chinese Medicine Doctor & Acupuncturist
Today, I’m interviewing Dr. Deborah Ma (aka Dr. Deb) of Puzzle Acupuncture in San Francisco. Dr. Deb is a Doctor of Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) and a licensed acupuncturist with over 17 years of clinical experience. Her journey in medicine began at the Beijing University of Chinese Medicine—the world’s top TCM university—where she earned both a medical degree and PhD. She spent a decade working at Beijing United Family Hospital, China’s premier private hospital, where she collaborated daily with OB/GYNs, neurologists, and pediatricians.
How to Live a Life Aligned With Your Values: A Guide to Authentic, Intentional Living
Most of us move through life with a long list of things we should be doing. But “shoulds” aren’t values. They’re often inherited expectations passed down from family, culture, community, or workplace norms. And when those expectations guide our choices more than our inner compass does, we end up feeling disconnected, resentful, overwhelmed, or unsure of who we are and what we want.
Bridging Mind and Body: Insights from a Naturopathic Doctor
In this first installment of Tiny Cottage Therapy’s new Holistic Healing Interview Series:
Discover how naturopathic medicine supports mental health by addressing the body’s root causes. We speak with Dr. Kirstin Uncur, ND, a naturopathic doctor specializing in mental health, hormone balance, and chronic fatigue. Dr. Uncur shares how understanding the body’s communication—through digestion, inflammation, and nutrient balance—can transform emotional wellbeing.
What Is Somatic IFS Therapy? Benefits and How It Can Help You Heal
As a Somatic Internal Family Systems (Somatic IFS) practitioner, one of the most common questions I hear is:
“What is Somatic IFS and how can it help me?”
Many of my clients come to me after years of intellectualizing their problems, feeling like they understand their struggles but still feel stressed in their bodies. That’s where Somatic IFS makes a difference. It integrates the mind and the body, offering a path to healing that goes deeper than words—so you can feel lasting change from the inside out.
Your Brain Wasn’t Meant for Constant Information
In a world where the news never sleeps and updates flood our phones by the minute, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the sheer volume of information we’re expected to process each day. From breaking headlines to trending topics, the constant stream can leave us feeling anxious, exhausted, and emotionally drained.
But here’s the truth: your brain wasn’t designed to take in this much information at once.
5 Self Care Practices for Summer
Summer is a time of vibrancy, warm weather, and lots of sunshine. With the longer days, it can be the ideal time to add in a handful of new self-care activities.
What We Love About Vacation—and How It Can Soothe Anxiety in Daily Life
There’s something about being on vacation that feels so different from everyday life.
We breathe deeper.
We laugh more.
We feel (at least temporarily) free from the pressure to be productive, polished, or on top of everything.
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