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A Holistic Mental Health Resource for Anxiety, Burnout & Cultural Identity
I’m Caitlin Blair, LCSW and holistic psychotherapist based in California. I love helping people find more balance in their lives by building awareness & building practical habits to support their whole selves.
Allostatic Load: Why Chronic Stress Leaves You So Burned Out
When you’re burned out, it can feel like your energy never quite comes back. It doesn’t seem to matter how much you “rest”, take time off, or try to relax. You may be still appear to be functioning and fulfilling your daily duties, but everything feels a little harder than it used to. There’s a name for this experience: allostatic load.
Why You’re Still Tired Even Though You Sleep
You’re going to bed. You’re even getting the recommended number of hours. And yet, you wake up feeling foggy, heavy, or already behind.
That’s because it’s not really about sleep, it’s about your lack of restorative rest. Sleep and rest aren’t the same thing and it’s important to understand the difference and how to get both.
Sleep in an Overstimulated World
“Why can’t I sleep?" “How can I fall asleep faster?” These are two of the top mental health-related google searches of this year. And it’s no wonder, because we’re living in a world that rarely lets our nervous systems fully relax. Even when we’re technically resting, we’re often still taking in information, others’ emotion, and stimulation.
For many people, the issue isn’t that they don’t want to sleep or don’t know the basics of sleep hygiene. It’s that our bodies are getting all kind of mixed signals about when and how they are supposed to power down.
What Poetcore, Wilderkind, Cottagecore, & Mystic Outlands Aesthetics Say About Our Mental Health Right Now
Aesthetics like poetcore, wilderkind, cottagecore, and mystic outlandes are a part of Pinterest’s Trend Predictions and they say a lot more about us than just trending aesthetics and popular themes. These trends are showing a great cultural shift about what people are craving within the context of our current state of our world: slowness, meaning, grounding, and relief from constant performance for others’ gaze.
Anxiety Isn’t All in Your Head: Understanding the Vagus Nerve
Polyvagal theory gives modern language to that ancient knowing. It helps explain how anxiety lives in the body, why talk alone doesn’t always help, and how small, embodied shifts can change how safe you feel day to day. Let’s dive into learning about the vagus nerve and how it can actually apply to your daily life to support anxiety and overwhelm.
Cozy Hobbies and Mental Health: Why Slow, Comforting Activities Actually Help
The best part about cozy hobbies is that it’s not about mastering a skills (although you often do improve) or monetizing your interests. They’re about engaging with ourselves in ways that feel grounding, soothing, and human. And from a mental health perspective, they’re one of the keys to rejuvenating our spirits and beating burnout.
Highly Sensitive People: Understanding Burnout, Anxiety, and the Strength of Sensitivity
Have you ever felt like you experience the world more intensely than others? Maybe you’ve even been put down by others for being “too sensitive”. To you, sounds feel louder, emotions run deeper, and subtle shifts in mood, energy, or environment are quickly and easily noticeable. Let’s talk about understanding sensitivity through a compassionate lens that still offers room for relief and growth.
Going Analog in 2026: How to Balance Technology, Burnout & Anxiety
As we move into 2026, many people are feeling drawn toward the idea of “going analog.” This interest a response to the exhaustion that comes from living in a world where screens touch nearly every part of our lives. Technology can be incredibly helpful, offering access to care, flexibility, creativity, and connection. At the same time, when digital engagement becomes constant and unavoidable, it can quietly contribute to burnout, anxiety, and a sense of disconnection.
The question most people are really asking isn’t “Should I quit technology?” but rather, “How do I use it in a way that actually supports my mental health?”
How to Set New Year’s Goals That Honor Your Healing: Trauma-Informed Resolutions
For many people, the New Year carries a sense of possibility; think fresh starts, big dreams, new habits. But on the flip side, this idea that we need to create major change in our lives can provoke anxiety and internalized pressure. Instead of excitement, you might feel guilt, or dread every time someone asks “Do you have any New Year’s Resolutions?”. The idea of setting ambitious goals might bring up feelings of failure, not hope.
Holiday Mental Health Tips for Anxiety, Burnout, and People-Pleasing
The holidays can be meaningful and joyful and also overwhelming, exhausting, and emotionally complicated. If you live with anxiety, struggle with burnout, or tend to put others’ needs before your own, this season can feel like a pressure cooker of expectations.
The Cost of the “Team Player” Myth in Workplaces
“Be a team player.” If you’ve ever read a job posting or sat through a performance review, you’ve probably seen this phrase. It sounds innocent, even virtuous. After all, teamwork is important, right?
But here’s the thing: this so-called “team player” expectation often comes with hidden costs that not everyone feels them equally.
Beyond the Calm Surface: Understanding High-Functioning Anxiety
High-functioning anxiety is one of those experiences that often goes unnoticed by others, and sometimes even by ourselves. On the outside, you may look composed, capable, and productive. You meet deadlines, show up for others, and seem to “have it all together.”
How Cultural Expectations Shape Anxiety and Burnout: An IFS Perspective
Many of us grew up hearing explicit or implicit messages like “Work hard, make your family proud, and don’t waste the sacrifices that were made for you.” These messages often come from love, perseverance, and cultural survival. They’re passed down through generations that endured hardship by prioritizing endurance, humility, and achievement.
But over time, these values can turn into overwhelming pressure. You may feel driven to achieve, hesitant to rest, or afraid to disappoint others, while constantly living with a quiet sense of “not enough.”
What Is Somatic IFS Therapy? Benefits and How It Can Help You Heal
As a Somatic Internal Family Systems (Somatic IFS) practitioner, one of the most common questions I hear is:
“What is Somatic IFS and how can it help me?”
Many of my clients come to me after years of intellectualizing their problems, feeling like they understand their struggles but still feel stressed in their bodies. That’s where Somatic IFS makes a difference. It integrates the mind and the body, offering a path to healing that goes deeper than words—so you can feel lasting change from the inside out.
Breaking Free from the Cycle of People-Pleasing
Many of us grew up believing that being “nice” meant saying yes, keeping the peace, and putting others’ needs first. On the surface, this looks generous and kind. But beneath the surface, people-pleasing often has less to do with kindness and more to do with fear.
Are You Confusing Empathy with Responsibility?
So many of us feel this deep need to help, support, and care for others. This is not a bad quality, in a lot of cases it can be an absolutely good quality. However, sometimes we get so plugged into this role of giving to others that we completely deplete ourselves. Understanding the differences between empathy and responsibility can be a key step in making sure you don’t overextend and can keep being that kind caring human that you are!
When Relaxation Feels Unsettling: Understanding Anxiety Around Calming Practices
If you've ever tried to meditate or take a deep breath, only to feel more anxious instead of calmer, you're not alone. For many people—especially those with anxiety—the idea of relaxing can feel uncomfortable, or even threatening. This reaction even has a name: relaxation-induced anxiety or relaxation-induced panic. It may sound counterintuitive, but it happens to people all the time.
Guilt vs. Shame: How to Tell the Difference (And Why It Matters)
We’ve all had moments when something we said or did didn't sit right. Maybe we snapped at someone we care about. Or forgot an important birthday. In the aftermath, two powerful emotions can show up: guilt and shame.
At first glance, they can feel similar. Both bring a heavy emotional weight. Both can trigger a desire to retreat or “fix” something. But understanding the difference between guilt and shame is essential for emotional healing and mental well-being.
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