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I’m Caitlin Blair, LCSW and holistic psychotherapist based in California. I love helping people find more balance in their lives by building awareness & building practical habits to support their whole selves.
Job Hugging: Why Staying in an Unfulfilling Job Makes Sense and How It Can Still Lead to Burnout
Have you seen the term job hugging popping up on your LinkedIn feed lately? If you have, you’re probably like me and have felt a mix of recognition and discomfort.
Job hugging describes the growing trend of employees staying in roles they’ve outgrown or feel unhappy in, not because they love the work, but because leaving feels too risky. In an uncertain economy, with layoffs, rising costs of living, and an unpredictable job market, this choice can understandably feel like a necessity.
Allostatic Load: Why Chronic Stress Leaves You So Burned Out
When you’re burned out, it can feel like your energy never quite comes back. It doesn’t seem to matter how much you “rest”, take time off, or try to relax. You may be still appear to be functioning and fulfilling your daily duties, but everything feels a little harder than it used to. There’s a name for this experience: allostatic load.
Why You’re Still Tired Even Though You Sleep
You’re going to bed. You’re even getting the recommended number of hours. And yet, you wake up feeling foggy, heavy, or already behind.
That’s because it’s not really about sleep, it’s about your lack of restorative rest. Sleep and rest aren’t the same thing and it’s important to understand the difference and how to get both.
Sleep in an Overstimulated World
“Why can’t I sleep?" “How can I fall asleep faster?” These are two of the top mental health-related google searches of this year. And it’s no wonder, because we’re living in a world that rarely lets our nervous systems fully relax. Even when we’re technically resting, we’re often still taking in information, others’ emotion, and stimulation.
For many people, the issue isn’t that they don’t want to sleep or don’t know the basics of sleep hygiene. It’s that our bodies are getting all kind of mixed signals about when and how they are supposed to power down.
What Poetcore, Wilderkind, Cottagecore, & Mystic Outlands Aesthetics Say About Our Mental Health Right Now
Aesthetics like poetcore, wilderkind, cottagecore, and mystic outlandes are a part of Pinterest’s Trend Predictions and they say a lot more about us than just trending aesthetics and popular themes. These trends are showing a great cultural shift about what people are craving within the context of our current state of our world: slowness, meaning, grounding, and relief from constant performance for others’ gaze.
Cozy Hobbies and Mental Health: Why Slow, Comforting Activities Actually Help
The best part about cozy hobbies is that it’s not about mastering a skills (although you often do improve) or monetizing your interests. They’re about engaging with ourselves in ways that feel grounding, soothing, and human. And from a mental health perspective, they’re one of the keys to rejuvenating our spirits and beating burnout.
Highly Sensitive People: Understanding Burnout, Anxiety, and the Strength of Sensitivity
Have you ever felt like you experience the world more intensely than others? Maybe you’ve even been put down by others for being “too sensitive”. To you, sounds feel louder, emotions run deeper, and subtle shifts in mood, energy, or environment are quickly and easily noticeable. Let’s talk about understanding sensitivity through a compassionate lens that still offers room for relief and growth.
Therapy for Creatives and Artists: Supporting Confidence, Expression, and Creative Flow
I’m a strong believer that everyone is creative whether or not that expresses itself in a “traditional” way. However, some of you have chosen to pursue creative work more consistently or as a job, which has its own added complexities. Creative work is deeply personal and requires you to pour in a lot of yourself. Whether you’re a writer, artist, musician, designer, performer, or maker of any kind, your inner world is often closely tied to what you create. This can make the creative process meaningful and fulfilling, but also emotionally vulnerable, demanding, and at times overwhelming.
Going Analog in 2026: How to Balance Technology, Burnout & Anxiety
As we move into 2026, many people are feeling drawn toward the idea of “going analog.” This interest a response to the exhaustion that comes from living in a world where screens touch nearly every part of our lives. Technology can be incredibly helpful, offering access to care, flexibility, creativity, and connection. At the same time, when digital engagement becomes constant and unavoidable, it can quietly contribute to burnout, anxiety, and a sense of disconnection.
The question most people are really asking isn’t “Should I quit technology?” but rather, “How do I use it in a way that actually supports my mental health?”
Mental Health in the Wine Industry: The Hidden Emotional Toll Behind the Vines
I currently call Sonoma County home, and although I did not grow up here, I have come to love all that Sonoma County offers. This county—like Napa County, San Luis Obispo County, and Riverside County— is highly known for its wine industry and the beauty, artistry, and community that comes along with it. Visitors see rolling vineyards, award-winning tasting rooms, and fancy bottles. But those who work in this world know another layer, one that includes chronic stress, long hours, unpredictable seasons, and now, more than ever, a deep sense of uncertainty about the future.
Holiday Mental Health Tips for Anxiety, Burnout, and People-Pleasing
The holidays can be meaningful and joyful and also overwhelming, exhausting, and emotionally complicated. If you live with anxiety, struggle with burnout, or tend to put others’ needs before your own, this season can feel like a pressure cooker of expectations.
How to Live a Life Aligned With Your Values: A Guide to Authentic, Intentional Living
Most of us move through life with a long list of things we should be doing. But “shoulds” aren’t values. They’re often inherited expectations passed down from family, culture, community, or workplace norms. And when those expectations guide our choices more than our inner compass does, we end up feeling disconnected, resentful, overwhelmed, or unsure of who we are and what we want.
The Cost of the “Team Player” Myth in Workplaces
“Be a team player.” If you’ve ever read a job posting or sat through a performance review, you’ve probably seen this phrase. It sounds innocent, even virtuous. After all, teamwork is important, right?
But here’s the thing: this so-called “team player” expectation often comes with hidden costs that not everyone feels them equally.
Why You Might Feel Sad or Low in November (and How to Know If It’s Seasonal or Something More)
As the days grow shorter and the temperatures drop, many people notice their mood shifting. November, especially, tends to bring a wave of heaviness, tiredness, or unexpected sadness. If you’ve ever wondered “Why do I feel down every November?”, you’re far from alone.
Why Helping Professionals Are Extra Susceptible to Burnout
Helping professionals and anyone whose job centers on supporting others—tend to be some of the most compassionate, emotionally attuned people in the workforce. Yet those same strengths make them particularly vulnerable to burnout.
How Can Caregivers Navigate the Holidays with More Ease & Balance
Welcome Back to My Holistic Healing Interview Series
Today I’m interviewing Chloe France, MSW, who is a social worker specializing in working with folks with dementia and their caregivers. We wanted to talk today about the upcoming holidays and why caregivers may need and benefit from some specialized support.
Why Asian American, Pacific Islander Caregivers Need an Affinity Space for Support
Caregiving is deeply relational work. Whether you’re caring for aging parents, chronically ill family members, or loved ones with disability, you carry both visible tasks and invisible emotional burdens. In APIDA communities, these burdens often overlap with cultural expectations of filial piety, sacrifice, and duty.
How Cultural Expectations Shape Anxiety and Burnout: An IFS Perspective
Many of us grew up hearing explicit or implicit messages like “Work hard, make your family proud, and don’t waste the sacrifices that were made for you.” These messages often come from love, perseverance, and cultural survival. They’re passed down through generations that endured hardship by prioritizing endurance, humility, and achievement.
But over time, these values can turn into overwhelming pressure. You may feel driven to achieve, hesitant to rest, or afraid to disappoint others, while constantly living with a quiet sense of “not enough.”
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